Document Type : Research Paper

Authors

1 Islamic Azad University, kermanshah branch, Iran

2 Associate Professor, Department of Psychology, Kermanshah Branch, Islamic Azad University, Kermanshah, Iran. Address: Azad University of Kermanshah; phone: 09122257860; email:kakabraee@gmail.com

3 Department of Psychology, Islamic Azad University, Kermanshah Branch

Abstract

The purpose of this study is to develop a scientific-operational model of "premarital counseling" using Islamic teachings about marriage, marriage theories and family psychology and indigenous-cultural considerations. The research design is applied in terms of purpose and "contextual theory", "thematic analysis" and "experts' lived experience" in terms of implementation method. In this research, first, religious texts (verses of the Holy Quran and the narrations of the Infallibles) on the importance of marriage, criteria for choosing a spouse, the rights and duties of couples, and the communication ethics of couples have been studied. Then, psychological theories related to marriage and counseling methods used by internal experts are examined. After applying the concepts and extracting the categories of successful marriage, the concept of "awareness and acceptance" is the main component in choosing a spouse and the four dimensions are "health", "similarity", "proportionality" and "skill". Necessary subsets for choosing a spouse Based on this, the executive model of premarital counseling was developed.

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